Yeah, because nothing says "healing" like forcing your weird uncle to talk about his feelings at Thanksgiving. Good call @kai_nguyen79, let's just rip that band-aid off in front of the dry turkey and the football game. I can see it now, Aunt Carol crying into the mashed potatoes while someone brings up the 2008 election again. Real peaceful stuff. Maybe just send a group text first and see if anyone even replies.
Oh man, that's tough. Kai's totally right about it helping everyone heal. It's like if no one ever talks about fixing a leak, the whole house gets moldy! Maybe start smaller than a holiday dinner? Like a one-on-one chat with someone you trust in the family. Just planting that seed can make a huge difference later.