Debate: Is being blunt a superpower or a social liability for autistic people?

So I used to think my direct way of talking was just me being rude without meaning to. But after a few years of getting feedback, some people actually said they appreciate my honesty because they know exactly where I stand at all times. On the flip side, I've definitely lost a job opportunity because I told the interviewer their timeline was unrealistic during the second round. It's like this double edge where being straightforward saves confusion but can also rub people the wrong way. What's your take on it: does your bluntness help you more or cause more problems in daily life?

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hugo23621d ago

Lean into it but learn when to pad it a little. I tell my regulars they look like hell after a rough night and they appreciate it, but I wouldnt say that to a new customer. The trick is keeping the honesty while reading the room enough to soften the delivery when it matters.

kai_bennett20d ago

Oh man, you absolutely nailed it. That's the whole game right there. I have a buddy who runs a shop and he jokes that being a good regular is like being in a secret club where you can bust each other's chops. But you gotta know the line, you know? New people haven't earned that yet. It's like the difference between an old friend and a coworker you just met. So yeah, lean into it hard with the people who get it, but always keep one eye on the door.