Update: My grandma said talking about her funeral plans was 'tempting fate' and made me stop

She told me, 'We don't speak of death in this house until it's at the door,' so now I just keep a private note on my phone with her wishes for hymns and who gets her china, because how are you supposed to plan for something you can't even mention?

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singh.uma2mo ago

My own grandma sat me down at 80 and gave me a full list, down to the flower colors. It felt like a gift, not a curse. Keeping that note is so smart.

christopher_flores461mo ago

Keep that note safe and add to it when you can. I started a shared folder with my sister for our parents, just a basic document with account numbers and who to call. It feels less like planning a funeral and more like leaving a map.

jackson.jenny2mo ago

Honestly, that rule sounds superstitious and unhelpful. It makes the whole thing harder for everyone left behind. My family used to be like that and it caused so many fights after my grandpa passed. Having a plan is just being kind to the people who will grieve you.