Can we talk about using scripts in social situations?

I rely on prepared phrases to get through conversations. It helps but feels fake sometimes.

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robin8747mo ago

When ray_morgan calls scripts fake but functional, I see it differently. I use prepared phrases too, but they don't feel fake to me. For example, I always ask about someone's day in a similar way. That helps me start talking without hiding my real curiosity. Another example is how I compliment people's pets. I mean it when I say it, so the script just helps me get the words out. To me, it's more about using words that match my true feelings.

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jordan_torres7mo ago

The problem is when you rely on those pet compliments too much. I had a coworker who used the same "what a cute dog" line every single time, and it started to feel robotic even if she meant it. The words stopped having weight because they were just automatic.

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ray_morgan7mo ago

My three go-to scripts are basically carrying my entire social life, fake but functional.

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